1st topic: Can a girl have a guy friend that she is genuinely attracted to, hangs out with, and fools around with sometimes without any attachment or feelings of wanting to be more - or is this too unrealistic to ask for?
"A buddy is a equal beneficial arrangement. A buddy is a buddy that don't be complaining when his or her buddy ain't the buddy they came with." - Musiq Soulchild
Sure, sure - guys might argue that girls catch feelings too often but looking back at my past experiences, I have tried this once and it didn't work because the other person (the guy) caught feelings and maybe that was because we didn't start off as friends? (now we can never be "real" friends) I kept leading him on (not on purpose) to something that would never happen. But once you or the other person catches feelings the whole "friend" title gets thrown out the window and what exactly your relationship is becomes a blur. This may work out for the better if you both have feelings for each other but if the feelings are one-sided, someone is bound to get hurt.
I'm all up for trying things again, so I might try this whole "friend" thing again but I need to make some guidelines, rules, things to avoid so this time it won't fail. (Even though sometimes, what your heart feels overpowers any set rules or guidelines)
Disclaimer: If you are trying to do this with someone you previously dated (especially for a long period of time) I highly doubt this will work. I mean you guys may "think" your friends to keep things from being awkward but your NOT friends, you have history. It's great to still be cool with your ex's (unless they did some grimy ish...), it actually gives you someone to talk to when your going through that "I'm single like for real, for real" period, but if you guys didn't start off as friends then you'll never be "real" friends. #exception (there's always one of these) This actually worked for me once, I went out on a date and I "talked" to the guy who is my male best friend to this day.
